Monday, July 6, 2009


As of today, Soren is weaned. I'm having mixed feelings. It is strange to be done with something I have spent hundreds of hours doing over the last fourteen months. I never understood why someone would want to nurse for a really long time, but now that I'm done I totally get it. I had a rough start with nursing. Nursing is hard at first; don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I understand why many mothers don't last very long. I made it through the first couple of frustrating weeks and was finally starting to feel good about it, when I got a really bad infection which took four rounds of antibiotics to clear up. It was so painful and I dreaded nursing. Soon after that was over, Soren got thrush which was just as painful as mastitis and we were both so miserable. So two months into it I was ready to quit. But I stuck it out and am so glad that I did. I loved having something so special and intimate that he and I shared. There's not much sweeter than a newborn in a milk coma.

Once Soren got a little older nursing became the only quiet, peaceful time we had together. It is going to be weird not having a few minutes everyday to spend with him in a dark and quiet room looking down at his cute little face smiling up at me. I truly am going to miss those sweet little moments. I planned to nurse until he was one, but when his birthday rolled around, I wasn't quite ready to give it up and could tell that he wasn't either. Over the last couple of months my supply has gradually diminished until it just stopped. It has seemed very natural and clearly my body is done but there's not much that is more heartbreaking than the first time Soren looked up at me all confused and signed and said "milk?" when there just wasn't much coming out. He seems to be doing okay with it. He still wants to nurse first thing in the morning. He seems to miss that comfort right when he wakes up, but he can be distracted so that he forgets and gets on with his day just fine.

I on the other hand, am going to miss it. Much more than I ever thought I would. He's no longer a baby, which is wonderful. He's fun and talkative and curious and makes us laugh so much. I am so far away from wanting another baby because I just love my life with my little buddy and am not ready to change that quite yet. But I'm going to miss that special bond that only I could give. I am going to miss smelling his sweet breath after he nurses. I am going to miss that he needs me and only me. I am going to miss feeling like my body is sustaining the life of someone that I love so deeply, that I am providing something to him that no one else can. My body has been nourishing his for almost two years but I guess it is finally time to cut the cord.


J I L L A I R E said...

I commend you for sticking with it as long as you did after those initial troubles. Hopefully the rest of your babies will be easier to nurse. I had trouble with Adah at first, but the other two started off much better. I think it's because I was more confident.

Nursing is such a sweet and wonderful thing. I loved doing it and always had to gear up for weaning. Good luck to you and Soren both!

Marian said...

Kate, You brought tears to my eyes remembering. I am so happy you are Soren's mom. What a lucky man he is. Hugs.

Rich and Leslie said... about a huge milestone. Just reading your post makes me wish time would slow down a bit. - Anyways thanks for doing my calling. Being the assistant to the secretary was hard enough, I don't think I could handle being the real secretary. I'm just not all that into responsibility. Anyways Jonas and I can't wait to come home and hang out with you guys.

gumpin said...

Very sweet words. I was confused a bit at first about "a milk comma", wondering if that is some kind of pause in the sucking. But then I figured out from context that you might have meant "coma". I guess it works either way.

Kate Wangsgard said...

Thanks Brian. I fixed it. Although with my next baby I'm planning to call pauses milk commas.

Linda said...

I love reading your blog. And I love you. Motherhood suits you well.

james and andrea said...

Kate, I haven't seen your blog forever and this post--I'm mourning with you. We're getting to this point ourselves and it just changes everything. That was so sad about Soren looking up to you with questioning eyes. It's another chapter opening as one closes. I hope things are going great for you there!